As high achievers, we strive to become the best version of ourselves in everything we do. We take great pride in our work and the results we create.
That said, owning our successes is just as crucial as the hard work that leads to those outcomes.
And yet, for many, the true challenge is recognizing your right to shine in order to take proper credit for the impact you are creating. You must dismantle the barriers of modesty and uncertainty that often stand in the way of your rightful victories.
It is time to shift the narrative from humble understatements to empowering acknowledgments.
Without properly distinguishing your efforts amongst your team, boss and senior leaders, you run the risk of being overlooked, left in the shadows and held back in your growth goals.
This also applies in interviews as advocating for yourself and properly articulating your achievements as they tie back to your target role is essential.
As uncomfortable as it may feel to own your wins with confidence if you are not accustomed to doing this, it is necessary to elevate you in the eyes of key decision makers influencing your advancement, just like my client Stephanie learned to do in her workplace.
Additionally, do not overlook the importance of the process, challenges, and obstacles that led to achieving your outcomes. There is so much power in that which showcases your character, integrity and work ethic.
Peak performers know this is not about being cocky or egotistical, but rather that it is absolutely necessary in forging the most rewarding path forward.
Here's how.
Key mistakes to avoid
There is a time and place for humility. Owning your accomplishments is not one of them.
You cannot simply expect others to know what you did, how you did it and the results attributed to your specific efforts. This will lead to misunderstandings and misrepresentation of where credit is due.
Now, to be clear, this is not about getting all the praise all the time.
It is about ensuring that your work is not overshadowed by others because you lacked conviction and confidence in showcasing your impact.
This becomes even more important as you lead teams where your employees are, in large part, responsible for the outcomes derived. That said, as their manager, you still hold the key leadership role in orienting, directing and supporting them to reach desired outcomes - which are key wins in and of themselves.
With that in mind, here are 5 mistakes that will cripple your ability to own your accomplishments:
→ Downplaying your success: Do not fall into the trap of underestimating your achievements or brushing off compliments as "it is no big deal". This modesty, while admirable, can often lead to a diminished perception of your capabilities and limit your rightful recognition moments.
→ Lack of self-reflection: Not taking the time to reflect on and understand the full extent of your accomplishments can lead to a lack of awareness of your true potential. When you are in go-go-go mode of moving onto the next task, the next project, the next milestone without stopping to document your wins, you will tend to overlook key areas of your work that should be highlighted.
→ Minimizing your wins: This often happens when you do not realize that the results you achieved are in fact a direct outcome of your distinct strengths and skills, which leads you to discount the importance of sharing them. If you ever find yourself saying "it is just part of my job", this is doing you a major disservice.
→ Overlooking the journey: Focusing solely on the end result without acknowledging the hard work, challenges, and growth along the way can diminish the value of your accomplishments. It is easy to jump to the end without giving proper visibility to the path that got you there. That said, it is within that very path where your true strengths, skills and capabilities shine through in how you got there.
→ Fear of arrogance: The worry of appearing arrogant can prevent you from fully embracing and communicating your achievements, leading to a lack of recognition and self-worth. Thought patterns like "I do not want to sound egotistical", "I do not want to boast about myself", "I feel uncomfortable when the spotlight is on me", and "I am better at praising others around me" are keeping you playing small and dramatically reducing your ability to shine the way you deserve.
3 ways to own your accomplishments with confidence
1/ Keep track of your wins regularly
One of the easiest and simplest ways to get more comfortable in owning your accomplishments is to stay on top of them. Period.
When you develop habits that allow you to keep track of your wins of the week, month, or quarter, you immediately recognize the immense progress you have made over time.
This, in turn, builds more confidence in how you talk about your accomplishments because they are already actively in your consideration set.
This becomes particularly helpful for career path dialogues and performance reviews where you no longer need to scramble and think back on everything you achieved, as well as for interviews where you no longer forget what you have accomplished in former roles.
Pro tip: Ask yourself "what wouldn't have happened if I wasn't there?". This is a great way of distinguishing between what you have done versus what your team has done, so you can clearly highlight your specific wins and contributions.
Here are 3 quick tips to move you in the right direction:
→ Maintain a success journal: Format aside, this is about having a physical or digital document where you record your accomplishments. This can range from major project completions to small daily victories. The key is consistency. Allocate a few minutes at the end of each day or week to reflect and jot down your successes. You can even include accolades received from people you work with and how they appreciate collaborating with you.
→ Set regular review milestones : Incorporate regular intervals, like monthly or quarterly reviews, to go through your success journal. This is not just about revisiting what you have achieved, but also about analyzing the patterns in your successes. Look for common themes or skills that have contributed to these wins. This reflection helps in identifying your strengths and areas where you excel naturally. Recognizing these patterns is crucial for planning future goals and strategies, as it allows you to leverage your strengths effectively.
→ Share your wins: This action not only bolsters your confidence but also helps in building your personal brand. It opens doors for feedback, encouragement, and sometimes, constructive criticism, which are all valuable for your growth journey. Celebrating your wins, be it through a simple self-reward system or sharing with others, reinforces the positive impact of your accomplishments. It can even contribute to developing larger scale best practices to other teams and departments.
2/ Celebrate the "how"
When speaking about your accomplishments, I highly recommend following a "what, how, result" structure. It allows you to uncover all essential facets of your wins without getting long-winded.
That said, the "how" is where you truly want to showcase the specifics that led you from your point A to B most effectively.
This approach shifts the focus to the process, the strategies employed, the challenges overcome, and the personal growth experienced along the way.
You must not assume that your boss, other leaders or interviewers know what this consists of. This is your job to fill in those gaps and allow them to see the skills and capabilities that will continue to favour your progression in the company or in securing a new role altogether.
For example, perhaps how you delivered on a project showed keen leadership skills and multi-stakeholder collaboration, that are essential for the next role you are looking to achieve in the organization. It is crucial to highlight this to improve your perceived readiness for that next step.
→ For example: "In leading X project, I oversaw the strategy mapping by collaborating closely with our 4 core international teams. From here, I refined the vision that would best meet our local market needs and optimized towards the business target of 2x the portfolio volume. From here, I supported my team who then took on A, B, C to implement... In the end, this allowed our team to deliver the strongest campaign of the year within the department and was shared as a local best practice.”
By doing this, you not only give yourself the credit you deserve but also set an example for others. It is a powerful way to build a narrative around your success that is both relatable and inspiring.
3/ Be proactive in advocating for yourself
Do not wait for moments to come your way to own your accomplishments.
​Create these moments for yourself.
Proactive advocacy for yourself is a critical aspect of owning your wins, particularly in competitive work environments.
This proactive stance involves not just acknowledging your achievements internally, but also ensuring that they are recognized and appreciated in your wider professional circle.
You must step beyond your comfort zone of modesty and take charge of your narrative. By actively promoting your successes, you highlight your contributions and assert your value, which is essential for career advancement, networking, and personal branding.
Here are 3 quick tips to start putting this into action:
→ Communicate effectively: Develop a clear and concise way to articulate your successes. Whether through a well-crafted email, a presentation, or a casual conversation, be as specific as possible in expressing your wins. Quantifying results factually when shared underpins the impact you create. This clarity also helps others understand the significance of your work and reinforces your own understanding of your achievements.
→ Leverage your network: Share your successes with your network, internally and externally. This could be through platforms like LinkedIn, networking events, or catch-ups with colleagues, your boss and other leaders in your company. Do not be shy to ask for opportunities to share your wins. For example, if there are internal company wide meetings where your boss would normally present on your behalf, you can suggest presenting it yourself the next time for that added exposure. Remember, your network is not just there to support you, but also to celebrate with you so use this to your advantage.
→ Seek endorsements and testimonials. Encourage colleagues, peers, or supervisors to provide feedback or testimonials on your performance and achievements. These endorsements can be powerful, especially when shared on professional platforms like LinkedIn in the form of recommendations. They offer credible, third-party validation of your skills and accomplishments, enhancing your professional credibility.
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How will you choose to own your wins?
Owning your accomplishments is a critical component of being a peak performer. It is about giving yourself permission to acknowledge and celebrate your successes, both in terms of the outcomes as well as the path that got you there. Whether you are building this muscle for internal advancement or external new opportunities, it is something you must embrace to take full control of your career.
You've got this!
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This week's mission is aimed at helping you to own your accomplishments with confidence. These reflections are designed for you to reflect and take action on your opportunity areas in moving past modesty and finding the right balance of highlighting your successes and showcasing your wins.
1/ In your current workplace:
- Spend 15 minutes reflecting on your top 5 accomplishments from the past month or quarter of the year. For each, write a detailed account of what it was, how you achieved it, and its impact.
- Use this as your base structure for your success journal moving forward.
- In your next team meeting or conversation with an internal decision maker, share a recent accomplishment. Focus on the journey and the lessons learned, not just the outcome. This will allow you to get more comfortable with celebrating the "how".
2/ In interviews:
- Write down the most prominent competencies, skills and requirements needed to deliver in the role from the job posting itself.
- Pair each one with at least 3 examples of prior accomplishments that demonstrate what you did, how you did it and the result it created.
- Use this as your cheat sheet to refer to as you practice your answers out loud to be best prepared.
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